A gift he never got to give...

Last night in Arlington, TX a fan, a father, a fireman died trying to do something that just about everyone who goes to a ballpark in America tries to do... catch a ball and take home a piece of the game.

I remember the first time I went to Tiger's Stadium with my Dad. I wanted to take my glove even though my Dad explained that I wouldn't need it since we were sitting under the overhang of the upper deck. I wanted to catch a foul ball, a thrown ball, I didn't care how I got it, but I knew I wanted it! I even remember saying "you never know Dad!" He said "you're right! Why don't you bring it?" The only use that glove got that day, was as a pillow on the arm rest for the ride back home from Detroit. I will never forget that day!

Shannon Stone's son will never forget yesterday either... but not for a good reason. He watched his father die at a baseball game.

I am sure that Josh Hamilton will never forget yesterday either. He was the player who flipped the foul ball up into the stands towards Stone. Something ballplayers do hundreds of times in a season. I am sure Hamilton thought nothing of tossing that ball up towards the seats at the time... now, I am sure he will never forget the way it felt to throw that particular ball.

Fans everywhere go to the ballpark to watch a game, but deep down everybody wants to take home a 5-1/4 ounce ball made out of cork, rubber and tightly wrapped in leather.... that was used in THAT game. Not just for the memorabilia but for the story that they will share with their child for the rest of their lives. People holding babies or beers, people sitting in the front row at field level or the 3rd row from the last in the upper deck, they all are watching and waiting and hoping.. but none of them think that they could die trying!

I never knew Mr. Stone but I can tell you in that moment when Josh Hamilton turned and tossed the ball towards him, I am sure he felt that joy and happiness that everyone feels when they realize they will actually be able to have a small piece of the game. To be able to catch the ball, turn and hand it to your child is a feeling that every American father wants to have one day. I know I do.

I can't imagine the anguish that Mr. Stone's son felt when he saw his father fall over the railing. I can't imagine the worry that Mr. Stone had when he was being taken out of the park, asking the EMT's to make sure that his son was ok. I just can't imagine... not without hurting in my heart.

It's all because of the fact that I can personally relate to the whole situation, both the attempt and then the worry about your child's safety... I think most fathers in America can.

It's a sad and tragic day in all of sports...

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Is the human factor in sports a good thing anymore?

Nowadays there is video review in the NFL and the MLB, even tennis has computer verification of where a ball lands near the line. There is an element in sports that  is what many feel is the best thing about sports... the "human element". Referees and Umpires who make the calls in every game, the players who make the mental mistakes contribute to the "reality" of sports. The only authentic reality show on TV anymore.

But are there aspects of the human side of sports that can be better?

Doug Fister after allowing a 3 ball walk.

On Saturday, July 2nd, during the Padres-Mariners game an umpiring mistake allowed a walk on a 2-2 pitch. That's right.. a 3 ball walk. The walk actually wound up being the winning run so the human mistake changed the entire game. The score board operator was the originator of the mistake showing a 3-2 count when it was actually a 2-2 count. But the count on the field of play is supposed to be held by the home plate umpire. The scoreboard is not supposed to play a  part.

When you think about it, EVERYBODY should have known what the count was! The pitcher, the catcher, the team manager, the ENTIRE umpiring crew... they ALL should have known what the count was. No one knew what the count was and the Mariners lost the game because of it.

Is it a good thing that this happened? Yes, it absolutely is! If only to prove that that the game is a game played by and officiated by... humans! If the game becomes too automated and computers or video become too integrated, the game loses it's humanity, charm, honesty, and integrity. The human aspect of ANY sport makes the sport attractive because as fans (humans also) we can relate. We have all made mistakes and bad decisions and we know what it's like to be in those shoes. It also gives us something to be frustrated about with the game. A bad call or a mistake by a player ultimately makes the sport or game more appealing and popular because we then talk about it and complain about it and then we watch more.

What is also important to remember is that the players and umpires are being watched by future players and umpires. That's right, kids are watching. Kids are like big sponges, the soak it ALL up, everything!

Jon Rauch loses his shirt and his temper after being ejected.

In a game that was also played on Saturday between the Blue Jays and the Phillies, Toronto pitcher John Rauch was unhappy with the call of two pitches that ultimately became a walk. On the next pitch the run scored. As he was walking by the home plate umpire Rauch made the comment that it was too bad that the umpire couldn't have an ERA because that run was his. Rauch was ejected. Rauch had to be restrained and the altercation became so violent that he lost his uniform shirt and threw his hat down in disgust and anger. He was ejected from the game, not for arguing balls and strikes but for disrespect.

In a game Sunday, Chipper Jones of the Atlanta Braves was unhappy with the called strike 2 and 3 in the 9th inning. Although he didn't argue at the plate, he did say some things in a post game interview that even he admitted he could be fined for. He didn't care if he was fined and he said so.

Kobe Bryant was fined earlier this year for an offensive comment he made toward a referee. It happens in all of sports!

Behaving disrespectfully towards the officials will never help your cause, not as a ball player or in life. If you have a smart mouth, you will get fined or ejected, just as much as if you have a smart mouth towards a police officer will get you locked up. A young man who was forced to testify in the Casey Anthony trial flipped the bird to one of the prosecuting attorneys. The Judge immediately had him removed and gave him 6 days in jail. There is a consequence for every action!

Athletes in any sport have an obligation to show respect towards the officials. Not because they need to keep from being fined or ejected or penalized... but because the officials are the authority at that moment.

Athletes need to set the example. Having a smart mouth or behaving badly towards an official will result in a penalty of some sort. Be a professional and act like a man, not a 14 year old who didn't get his way!

There was a time, not long ago, when players in major sports acted like gentlemen. That time is sadly over!